How to Set Up a Date and Get Her Email Address or Phone Number

Recently I received this email.  Here’s how I answered it…

Hi Scott!

I was able to successfully download your free subscription.  My problem is not approaching women. I have no problem going up to almost any girl I want to talk to. I feel like I can’t just quite seal the deal when it comes to getting more numbers and dates. I see myself as a pretty outgoing and busy guy.  I get numbers but usually it is like 1 or 2 out of 10. Anyway, I know that you probably are flooded with emails but I would really appreciate it if you could give me some advice at your convenience.

    - William from Texas

Well William here’s my take on the whole phone number thing.  In my opinion, it should be the LAST thing you should go for when you initially meet a woman. 

Let me explain…

During your conversation, you want to build up enough attraction where she would like to go out on the date.  This means BEFORE you even go for her number, you should make sure you’re doing enough to ATTRACT her.

In other words, you have to focus on creating a fun and dynamic conversation.  This can include asking her interesting questions, being cocky-funny, flirting, and establishing physical contact.  The more you can do to build attraction, the more she’ll want to go out on a date with you.

During your conversation, you should find out about her interests and hobbies.  This information is important because you will want to incorporate it into a date idea.

After you have talked to her for a few minutes, you can try a technique which I copied from David DeAngelo.  Tell her that you enjoyed the conversation but must go back to her friends.  Then turn to walk away and almost as an afterthought say to her something like:

“I just had a thought! You mentioned that you like ____.  I was thinking about doing it this Friday, I’d be cool if you tagged along.  Do you have email?”

Now this technique works because typically women tend to answer emails more often then phone numbers.  In addition, you can use a bit of cocky-funny if she tells you she doesn’t have an email account.  Finally, you are “assuming the close”.  Instead of asking for a date, you’re just assuming she wants to come out.

Then when you’re getting her email, tell her to jot down her number as well.  Now end the conversation and tell her you’ll send her more information to set things up. 

Basically I think this technique works well for a couple of reasons

1- You’re setting up a date that is centered on something she enjoys

2- You’re getting an email address where it’s A LOT easier to contact someone because of busy schedules.

3- You’re showing confidence because you have controlled the situation.  You’ve walked up to her, chatted her up, did a bit of flirting then chose the point to end it.  It works because women are used to guys hitting on them and NEVER leaving.

Okay William, I hope this helps a little.  Just remember to focus on setting up a date and then using an email (or phone number) to finalize plans. 

Good Luck!

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